Since my new journey into the mental health field, there is a lot of things I’m learning that are maladaptive about myself.
Why don’t they teach these things in school?
Why doesn’t the work place offer therapy or counseling for their staff to process everyday work place issues?
Whenever I buy something. I feel regret. “Wow, I shouldn’t have bought that.” But how come I couldn’t rephrase that for myself. “Next time I’ll be more careful, but it’s okay that I bought _____ because I needed it.”
I’ve learned that one “shouldn’t SHOULD on themselves.” We are constantly making errors and doing things which cause regret. How is that helpful? How can we change the way we open up our own conversations with ourselves, and remember we are human. I assume you’re a lot meaner and harsher on yourself then you are to a friend or sister. Be your own friend…
We have to stop making unrealistic expectations for ourselves. They are causing us to lower our self-esteem day in and day out. We are human. There are many maladaptive and often unhelpful thought patterns that we do everyday.
I plan to review these unhelpful thought patterns over the course of this blog. Do you ever SHOULD on yourself? How do you cope with it and do you even notice you do it?